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Why I’m Proud To Write Subversive Smut

Why I’m Proud To Write Subversive Smut

Events in my life have taken a turn lately and I’ve been writing things that aren’t smut. Actually, that have nothing to do with sex. And that has led to a strange disconnect–a sort of half and half split, a Jekyll and Hyde. And lately I’ve found myself in more and more situations where I’ve had to “out” myself as a sex blogger, as a writer of erotica, and as gay because the community that I’m writing for/in doesn’t know. Very strange. It’s very strange for me to step into a world where my being a big ole gay-mo might not be clear, or where the contents of my website is not a thing that people already know about me.

I wasn’t sure how I was going to navigate it. Do I give out that business card that says I’m a purveyor of Clit Lit? Or not? Do I make sure to keep my identity totally separate so I don’t get pigeon holed? So I can still write things that have nothing to do with sex and gender identity, of course.

Then I really realized exactly how much shame that is indicative of and I was horrified. I had to start examining how I felt about the writing that I do. I came to the conclusion that I am really proud to contribute to my community in the way that I do and that smut is valuable. I really knew that before hand, but now I need to start walking the walk and not being a pansy about it.

And here’s why I’m proud. This is not fluff. It’s not a boy-meets-girl romance novel. It’s subversive–my pieces often take gender and queer it up a little, and they certainly depict women and female-bodied people enjoying and expressing themselves without the presence of men. And it creates a mirror for female-bodied queers to see themselves in. Only monsters have no reflections (props to those who can guess which author that idea comes from.)

So, business card out. Hope it was a good decision. On with more writing.


2 comments on "Why I’m Proud To Write Subversive Smut"

  • kit lynam says:

    i dunno, i kind of have the problem with “female bodied”
    like
    i was assigned male at birth and
    i’m a female so
    my body is also female
    so i’m female bodied?
    but i know that the phrase “female bodied” means
    vulva and clit and stuff
    ._.
    i dunno i’m not really asking you to do anything i just figured i might as well say my feelings in the comments because that’s what they’re for, right? right?? right?!?!??!!1

    • Ali Oh says:

      Comments are indeed for feelings. :0)

      Female-bodied is pretty subjective–I’ve used that for as long as I can remember, as have a few people I know who identify outside of the gender binary. But I can see where that term may not be inclusive. Clearly the solution here is MOAR WORDZ. I can’t say that I’ll stop using female-bodied entirely, because it’s a term I use to describe myself. But I am always open to a discussion about more phrases of awesomeness that help lend visibility to all parts of our community.

      What kind of verbiage do you prefer?

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